I am bipolar I, with psychotic breaks. There, I said it.

I'm here because I've been spending a lot of time on a marriage forum, dealing with my wife's recent infidelity, and am finding that, now that the initial shock is wearing off, I need help from others who have had similar issues: dealing with infidelity while also trying to deal with bipolar disorder.

Since my wife had her affair, I feel that, on top of the depression that triggered, I am experiencing almost PTSD-like problems: lack of motivation, emptiness and loneliness. Even though my wife is on board with trying to heal our relationship, and that is going pretty well, I still feel "sick." And stuck.

I can't seem to get out of my hole, and I am now becoming comfortable in this hole, and I know that's wrong. There's so much to do in life; so much to get done, but I cannot seem to move forward. And I have responsibilities to take care of, and a life to live. But I'm not living; I'm surviving.

If you are either a betrayed spouse or a disloyal spouse and have found coping mechanisms or other help in dealing with this double-whammy, I'd love to hear from you. Thank you in advance for any help you can offer.