Fuzzy, as I understand your question, you are asking about being dissapointed in one of your friends, past or present, right?

I think dissappointment comes when we have expectations of others. Sometimes, these expectations are in place before we get to know someone really well. Sometimes, these expectations come as we get to know someone. Because they've been, or we've perceived them to be a certain way, we expect them to ALWAYS be that way. In my experience, people will always dissapoint you in one way or the other if we hold them to hard and fast rules.

I seriously doubt that anyone can ALWAYS be consistent in everything they say or do. That's part of being human.

Even with promises made, sometimes we make promises that for one reason or another, we can't keep. That's a biggie for me. If I make a promise, I will do anything within my power to keep that promise. But I have found that some people don't hold the same importance or exactly the same meaning of the word as I do. These people will say, "Yes, I promise" but in their minds, subconsciously they're thinking "If nothing else comes up."

What I've done is to wait and see if these people mean the same thing I mean when I say it. Then I keep it in mind for later reference.

I prefer to be friends with people that mean the same thing I do when I make a promise. "Actions speak louder than words" is something else I go by. Words are cheap, actions are priceless!

I feel the same way about what people say, even if it's not backed up with a promise. Personally, I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I give my word. I keep it. If a friend isn't as firm on that fact, it's annoying, but I accept it as a part of that person.

Bottom line; nothing is set in stone; go with the flow as much as you can. Like my siggy line says; "Things are only as important as I want them to be."

I hope I've made sense.

I am SO proud of you for stating your feelings on this thread and others. Keep up the good work!