Well if you go to the wrong dr. they could say 'I don't like labeling people' and at that point you decide to find another one (true story) The dr that finally did dx me gave me a questionnaire to fill out and asked me several questions. She was very thorough about it too. For me it was important not to go in saying I thought had this or that, I just mentioned the previous dx of bipolar. Funny thing is I knew or was 99% sure I had bpd and when she wrote on a piece of paper that said "borderline personality disorder" and asked if I'd heard of that, I felt a great sense of relief knowing someone actually recognized it.