Now I know this is a hard question to answer and possibly no one here may have found the answer or even asked it themselves.

Background:
Ok so I am sure I have BPD. Almost every trait outside of SI I have experienced and on a pretty regular basis when I'm in an intimate relationship. I don't really question that.

but I wonder and am kind of suspicious that I may also be an aspie (someone with aspergers syndrome disorder). It all came about when my ex, my boys' mother, started exploring this about one of my sons. We found that he has all the symptoms of AS and he is very classic aspie. Well as I went through all of this I also found out my grown daughter, from another marriage was diagnosed with it too. Looking a little deeper I was like "this sounds like me as a child!" (the way my son is now). I've since learned to cope enough to be somewhat successful in life and career but the traits are still there. So anyway I did take tests on AS many times on line and so far they all say I have the likelihood of having AS. you can look it up, it's a hard thing to describe sorry I don't have a link currently.

One thing I'm not clear of. I am extremely socially awkward in many situations IRL and don't really do well in meeting people, being in large groups, etc. This is a trait of AS first but my question is, that I'm unclear on is this something that BPD sufferers experience too? I know they (we) all have a hard time with relationships but is it common to have major social anxiety and have a hard time just interacting with strangers in social settings too? Is this something that is similar between the two very different disorders?

Just wondering if anyone has ever asked this or is also in the same boat as me too.