I rarely obsess on lovers anymore. But I still obsess over if my children have called and where they are, and pace the house until I find them. Lovers got me in trouble , just became a pain in the *** keeping track of them, so that was easier to let go of. I still get a random text from one, but seriously I can't even remember their names. So with that info, it's easier to ignore it and find something more important to focus on.