He's learning to quiet his voice, keep his tone calm, not to blow up, to keep a huge space between us since my invasion of personal space is greater then the average. He is doing better and I feel a little safer.

My H is like yours, even if I'm watching tv he'll ask me to change channels, why did you do it that way, why is this not done, he's a very in your face kinda guy to. I am so not assertive. I'm very passive. I'll do anything to keep the peace and have who ever be happy. I really feel like this passiveness and willingness to please has helped contribute to me being raped many years ago. The T says I'm not at fault but I can't help but believe if I were more aggressive then that would not have happened. That is something else that needs to be worked on in the future. Letting go of blameing myself. But one snail crawl at a time.

I am much like a dog that has been beaten and finially gets a new home. I have to relearn it is ok to love, trust, be happy, that no one is going to hurt me, and eventually I'll trust again. I can feel myself going there a little more then I used to. But boy do I have a long way to go.