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Originally Posted by hartbroken
Right now I live with my parents yet. I can't manage my money, nor my diabetes, and the group home is starting to look good to me, because I want to be taken care of, and I don't know if my girlfriend can work full time and also take care of me. We're in love, and I hate to leave the marriage idea for a group home. If we get married right now, we'd be scratching for pennies all the time. My care would be limited. If I went to a group home, I'd be taken care of, and we could still be friends, but it would break our hearts.
I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas or options I don't know about?
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Wanting to be taken care of and wanting your girlfriend to take care of you are really poor reasons to get married. In fact, they will probably doom the marriage from the start. It is really unfair to expect someone else to take care of you all the time. Caretaking of a spouse is a HUGE strain and burden. Sometimes it is absolutely necessary and unavoidable, but you should be able to learn to manage your own diabetes, and if your mental health issues are beyond your ability to manage, asking someone else to manage them for you just really isn't realistic or really terribly fair.
Sounds like you really need the group home. Go there with the intention of learning the skills to manage your own health and well-being. Learn to do that and then perhaps down the road you can consider a marriage of equal partnership.