"When things don't go so great I think about God. No where does it say trusting him will be easy. The bible says he will never leave you or forsake you" quote Big Mama

Well, the truth is Mama, we actually "all" have a part of our brain that has this "god sense" to it. So, yes, it is true that God never does leave you, nor does God make or allow "bad" things to happen. People get very confused by that and often to their own undoing unfortunately. Because they don't believe in or have no proof of "miracles" or the mystical things that are talked about in different "religions". And we have people who say they are "athiests" which is sad to me really because it can lead to someone not truely developing that great part of their brain.

Take the Bible for example, many tend to think that book is all about "a" religion or Christianity. But that is just what "man" has done, not the reality of that book. That book is inspired and written by human beings that were utilizing that "god part" of their brains and it is one of the most profound books of "philosophy" there is. We think about what is written in the Bible as being "devinely inspired" because it has such a relevance to "humanity" and how Humanity thrives best, in it. What I quoted and learned myself "Father, forgive them, fore they know not what they do" is so very relevant today and the more we learn about the human brain and things like "dislexia" and other human challeges (even that of my own brother) that lead to "misunderstanding" each other is very much one of the ways "fore they know not what they do".

There are other religious books that have "similar" messages and those messages bring a sense of "self empowerment" as well. The act of praying and saying "minatras" has shown to tap onto that "god part" of the brain that actually brings a sense of "empowerment" and "reason for thriving" as well as "sense of inner peace". Unfortunately, because "man" has discovered the power of this and reconized how it helps us feel empowered has lead to forming different religions that we seem to need to defend these religions, even to the death and distruction of ourselves.

I have been very privilaged in what I do to be able to "view" how different religious groups form communities around a religion. I have seen that it provides a connection and a guide to come together and how it provides a sense of safety and closeness and is also good for children to grow up with. So I can understand why that religion is so protected because it works so well, it gives the sense of structure that a comminity can build on, connect on, and have a sense of togetherness and respect for each other in such a meaningful way to take place.

What I fear most is if we walk away from tapping onto that part of our brain. If we encourage more and more to not have "religions" and faiths, and just be all one community with guidelines we truely will lose something very essential to our ability to survive and thrive through lifes challenges.

All our most "prized and valued" leaders such as Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King, all our forefathers that have founded America based on this philosopy that is the recipe for healthy human life, all utilized this very significant and important part of their brains and they did want respect to all religions to take place too. But the list of these important men is even longer and can even be found in different religions, the important men that brought well being to human existance all tapped onto this important part of their brains. If we discourage this, we will surely become lost and will perish.

What was the "real" significance of Jesus turning the tables over in the market place and saying the money changers are not good? He never talked about building churches or different faiths like we have now either. He talked about the recipe of how to use this "god part" of our brain and how to care about each other in meaningful ways. The answer given when god was asked who he was, the answer was I am everywhere, I am in you. The advice was given not to worship "things or idols" as well. The "money changers" is about how people use "material wealth" for power and control of others which can become so unhealthy for all.

If we think about what happened to many of these men with these important messages, what happened to many of them? Abraham Lincoln was assassinated, and Jesus was executed and Martin Luther King was assasinated, and even Kennedy was assassinated not all of these men lived to ripe old ages. Somehow they had to be extra strong too but what threatened them was "a fear of them gaining power" or taking power away from others.

I am not trying to sell anyone any single religion either. I am not even telling anyone to "question" their own faith either. But, to consider what it means and why "religion" can provide so much to humanity. Because as we are now discovering, it utilizes a part of the human brain that is significant to our survival. It stretches back and has a meaning that many can see in the Bible and even other religious books that touches on "how to thrive" in a the best way together as human beings. As time passes and we evolve and learn about ourselves, we keep looking at this book in marvel at how significant is has been throughout our human history.

I have said somewhere, "value not what you can carry in your hands but what you carry in your heart".
Because that is the real secret to living a healthy life. And I personally believe God exists and our brains are designed to honor that presence. But I feel that because we do not understand the real meaning of it, we put our own labels on it in different religions.

I am actually honoring your faith Big Mama, but I have other friends, good people, and they are Jewish, Buddists, and other faiths, but they all have "faith" and tap on it in very meaningful ways. It is "man" that pulls it apart and labels it and tries to own it somehow. And it is man that tends to "use it for power" in some way too. And that is why our forefathers were smart enough to try to establish "government" being separate from "religion".

With that in mind, you have meaning Big Mama, you do have "depth to you" and you do have "gifts". If you really "look" at your husband and "his" issues, those issues have a reason for being there. He has been challenged in his life too, and his challenges have led to who he is as well. It is important that "he" learn about that and it isn't just about giving you space and trust either. It is more about understanding ourselves in a deeper way. For your husband, he has to know he is not giving up control or something in himself, he has to learn it can empower him as well.

My husband was bullied on the school bus too. He was dislexic so he learned differently and was often misunderstood, even carried a sense of not being good enough somehow, and like all dislexics carried it emotionally. He also tried to stand up to the bullies, was beaten badly, broken shoulder and was thrown around, didn't win the fight, but made sure his opponent didn't walk away painless either. And that deep feeling of "not being good enough" somehow led him to becoming an alcoholic.

My husband has scars too, many men do and just "hold their scars in" and they can develope some bad habits because of that "inner pain". My husband was also told to make his living using his head instead of his hands. But he is talented with his hands, it is how he was designed to be how his grandfather who told him that was also designed to be. My husband makes his living with his hands and he also likes to be around people, part of his gift as well.

Big Mama, you do have a gift and yes, you do have to learn to trust and find your way to learning to have a better relationship with your husband. You "both" have to work on this challenge. You do have to be assertive and you should look up how to be that way, it does work better. But, it doesn't change your husband's deep issues so he has to work on that as well.

When you talk about "not having friends" well you have felt too "broken" to believe you can have friends. You say other people would cringe if they really knew you. I am not cringing, people you have come to know in PC are not cringing. All people carry scars, that is life, it does that to everyone.

The world is full of people who "disrespect" boundaries. It is sad but true, makes life hard as well. PTSD is a really challenging disorder, it opens the floodgates to all the things that truely hurt us somehow, it is a painful disorder. So, yes it is a very challenging disorder, but with the right help and time and support, I believe it can be "overcome" but it takes time. It does help when we decide to work towards "self empowerment" inspite of whatever way we have been hurt or scared in our past.

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