Irish, I am so sorry you are going through all of this. It is hard enough going through life with the memories of loosing a son, let alone adding ex's manipulation of your other children. It is not easy dealing with something you have to fight about when you are dealing with other emotional issues. I hope that your lawyer will work for your best interest......letting the lawyer know your feelings is important. However I don't know if you are up to fighting for anything while in a fragile state.

Your decisions need to take into consideration your best interest given the state you are in at this point in time. I pray that things will go in your best interest,
Debbie