Hey there. I undersand about how you feel about getting off SSDI and your wife's wishes. I dated a gal who wouldn't continue to date me if I went on SSDI in the first place. She claimed that she was in pain all the time and could still work (maybe she could work, but when she was off work, she couldn't move). Even if you wife does have to go on SSDI, with both of you receiving benefits, you should be doing alright. I wish there was something I could say that would make your wife understand, I would think that being on ECT a year ago should say it all.

I would stay on SSDI and do what you can. Remember that being on SSDI is not a death sentance and that's why they have the back to work program.

Hang in there!