Chopin, I don't know what the truth is, whether your T was invalidating or not, but I know you're hurting because of how you felt in response to her words. That is true no matter if she meant it or not. My T never intended to hurt me, but she did. Maybe you over react and agonize over every word like I do. Your T cares a lot for you. I think you know that. I hope she validates your feelings in an email or at your next session.