You like what you like (and she likes what she likes) and you feel what you feel.

Now, would this annoy me? Yes. I would like to think it doesn't matter, but it does. My T dresses in high style also. She always has, and in addition, during the time I've been seeing her she lost a lot of weight and is now thin. I think part of the annoyance is the separateness - she is she and I am me - and another part is that, for me, it increases the gap between us because the disparity is accentuated. As I write this, I also think that is creates more disparity because when the style of dress is something that stands out so much, I think it can be such a distraction in therapy.

I feel other things about her dress style too: that it reflects that she continues to be engaged and interested in the present, including fashion; that she feels free to be who she wants to be; that she has no expectation of me turning into a more feminine looking woman, unless that is something that I would want for myself.

Sometimes I laugh to myself about her clothing choices. Like when she wears a skirt or dress that she has to keep adjusting, pulling the hem down toward her knees - that would drive me so nuts that the dress or skirt would end up in the "I'm never wearing that again pile