people can be very seemingly unfair quite often. "Why do you do t his for so and so and not for me?" I know.

Sounds like you're working thru this.

It can really hurt, I know.

Feeling dogged out like that.

The one thing that really got my attention was someone talking about their mother saying, "It was your imagination." These days, when someone tells me that, I say to them, "Perhaps it is. But this is how I feel when you do this or how I feel when someone does such and such. I feel hurt and dogged out. I need you (or them) to understand this and maybe take it into consideration." And also I have begun to tell them this: "Even if it is my imagination and you are not doing anything, I don't deserve to feel like a bad person or someone left out."

And they still don't always listen or understand.

Adult living is hard sometimes, it really is---to let go.

It can really feel like we're being slapped in the face.

I am glad you all are doing this thread; I really relate. I don't understand why ppl are the way they are sometimes. I think I spend so much time second guessing them and myself. I guess, what I am working on is at least not taking things so hard, as though I deserve them. People can be unmindful, self-absorbed, unaware, or selfish. Or just plain human. And like many of us pwbpd's, just don't even know how they might be coming off to us.

Just my humble thoughts; thanks,

Carol