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Originally Posted by dgiallin
Hello friends,
I'm going to start my Dbt therapy next week...I live in Italy and here there is only one place where they do dbt...I should be happy...actually I'm so devastated: my main problem is the fear f abandonement...I had a quarrel with my best friend who's BL too and helped me to discover I have the disorder...I feel abandoned even if she said she'll never desert me, just said we should stay on our own during these days we are both devastated and overwhelmed...please, friends, tell me what to do..I've troubles at work, 'cause I cry all day long, I feel seek, vomit, don't eat,...sorry to disturb you an sorry for my English..but I feel you are the ones that can comprehend my feeling..  |
I hope the DBT helps you. I used dbtselfhelp.com and that's good for me. I wish you luck on the therapy.
I relate to feeling very very insecure, even when people reassure me that they won't leave me. What goes thru my brain is this: "Are they for real or just smoothing me over or just pitying me cause I am so needy?" I can't look into their minds so I just don't know. I have to say to myself, "I just never learned to believe that someone could ever really be there for me on a regular basis" and just let those thoughts go by. It's very difficult.
You did not disturb me. Thanks for relating to me.
I get a lot out of these posts.
For real.
And you don't deserve to have to vomit, feel bad, or not eat. You can sit in these feelings; hopefully maybe DBT will give you some pointers on that, too. I have trouble with feelings, too. And with wanting to hurt myself.
Carol