Thank you for posting this.
It is not easy decision in deciding to go, nor in finding/researching the right place, nor in downsizing. Having been through this with relatives that wanted to remain independent yet needed the help, it is such a difficult process. Once settled, we were fortunate in finding caring places that were on top of their care (but research played a big hand in this, continually going to visit at all hours, talking with residents, staff, and families of residents; checking health reports and inspection reports, etc.) and then it made a world of difference for peace of mind for all of us, plus in their quality of life especially and mine knowing they were safe and could thrive better. The toll, especially in the case of the relatives that had dementia, the home had become so unsafe with access to the stove, shower/tubs that could not get in and out of, or in wandering off. This was so helpful to have the help and regained their sense of purpose in independence again, shopping and going out with others with appropriate transportation. Made a world of difference.

However, we were warned that the transitions were not going to be easy and support is important. We made sure we sent change of address/new home cards to friends and family so they could keep in touch with everyone following the move. Also continually following up helped to monitor how things were progressing and to not feel isolated. Additionally following up was really important to make sure they would get the care they need and deserve, because many times no one else will advocate for them but us when they cannot do it for themselves.

Moving and transitioning to assisted living, long term care, or a nursing facility, is not for everyone and I respect each one's decision in that. For those that do decide to make such a change, moving at whatever point in their lives to new surroundings away from a home, I so admire the strength and courage it takes to do so.