I think you're being too hard on yourself. Taking care of the household is a big job and I don't think enough people give credit for it. There was a time when it was completely normal for one person to stay home to take care of the household, and one would work. I think our society is nuts to demand that everyone be bringing in dollars to be considered of value. Money has become the evil demon that rules us all, it's completely insane.

I think every family is different and what works for your family is what is correct. If you can keep up with the house, that's excellent and it doesn't sound like he has an issue with that at all. Keeping your home is valuable and good. Don't belittle yourself, you're doing good.