I'm sorry you had to go through this. I had to go through the same thing and it is always terrifying. My youth leader was okay through it, but I know it was hard, what was worse is she was the one forced into telling me that someone else was going to tell my parents if I didn't (apparently that person was to chicken to confront me themselves, and also never talked to me again about it). My youth leader went with me to talk to my parents, who were upset but didn't start screaming at me like I expected them to. I've been preached at by quite a few church leaders. I can understand, since I know what I was doing was wrong and that God didn't want me to do it, but that didn't make it any easier to quit. I felt so guilty once when a pastor was on the phone with me once and I just couldn't stop myself. I had promised I wouldn't go deep. You can guess how well that went. I've been clean for seven years, but I still have a lot of issues with the shame I feel for still wanting it. You may want to let them know, that you are glad they care about you, but hope that they can continue to look at you the way they once did, before they found out. Some church leaders have done really good with that. Other, not so much. That's what I always worry about when Christians find out about my mental health issues. Some can never look at you the same way again. I don't say that to scare you. I say that to remind you that it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. For a lot of them, it's not even their fault, many have never come across this stuff before and have no idea how to approach the subject. You could look up some websites or blogs or youtube clips that explain how you feel or why you do it, and direct them to those. They feel just as confused and lost as you do. Try not to be too hard on them.