I'm 27 years old and I need some advice. I am female and live alone. I don't have support from my family. My best friend is very sweet, but she's much younger than me so it's hard for her to understand some of the things I go through. She's my best friend though and I'd be lost without her. But I feel alone in the things I'm facing in my life.

I struggle financially to make ends meet. I'm still trying to put myself through college.

My boyfriend lives in another state. We barely see one another. We talk online or on the phone. He is sort of emotionally unstable and he's also a few years younger than me. He still lives with his parents and he doesn't know what it's like to be responsible for bills and having to do everything on your own with no support at all. My parents (who are very uninvolved in my life) want to know more about my"boyfriend" but I don't even want to discuss it. I want to break up with him, but I fear that I will never find anyone again because I have avoidant personality disorder. I can spend days and weeks alone and never really see another person. I am afraid of doing anything socially -- especially with strangers. I live in an area where I don't know many people -- well, really anyone.. and the idea of going out and meeting new people totally turns me off. I guess I've had a lot of bad experiences in the past.

My boyfriend says he loves me, but I feel like there is no way I could have a life with him. His lack of personal responsibility in his life and total lack of having to do things on his own makes it hard for him to relate to me. He has promised me things and breaks all his promises. I feel like I need to break up with him, but it's difficult. I feel so confused. It seems that none of my relationships work out. The one I was really in love with broke my heart. This guy says he loves me, but I just can't imagine spending my life with someone who breaks their promises and has such a lack of responsibility. He's immature when it comes to living on his own (he never has and would be incapable of doing it).

I feel so lost and so alone. I don't know what to do anymore.