Eskie's right. You can't blame yourself because you don't feel what others say you're "supposed to." I will admit, I've been told about people's problems and I didn't feel that I really cared. I cared in the sense of I certainly wished them no ill or harm, but I didn't feel a strong worry for their situation. I sometimes think of myself as a cold person. That's not to say I never feel and cry and experience strong emotions, but sometimes, people have wanted me to react one way, and I just didn't feel what they wanted me to feel.