Days of Healing Days of Joy......................................................Dec. 8th

"Never let yesterday use up today"..............................Richard H. Nelson

Boundaries are the issue. How often we talk about boundaries. Most often these are boundaries between us and other people. Where does my responsibility end and yours start? But there are other boundaries - mental boundaries. One of them is getting lost in yesterday.

Yesterday's fears can overrun the boundary of today like cattle through a broken fence. We can lose sight of the difference between what happened yesterday and what can happen today. We can allow yesterday's resentments to become today's facts or yesterday's expectations to become today's prophecies. Yesterday's people may become the people we deal with today. Our fathers become our husbands or male friends. Patterns between our mothers and their family systems become the expected norm for today. It is unfair to do this to those around us now.

Today is like a bright new coin. It is potential, waiting for us to decide what we shall spend it on. We have a choice, as always: yesterday's hurt or today's celebration.
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Today's possibilities need not be limited by the past. I choose to be happy and healthy for this 24 hours.

And older guy in my home group used to say: If you're living in yesterday, you're peeing on today, and tomorrow isn't here yet." And it's so true.

Plus we allow old resentments to fog up today so we don't see clearly what is right before us. And continuing the cycle of the dysfunctional family we grew up in yesterday also fogs our vision of today.

So we do have a choice of what we want today to "look" like. Do we want it shiny & clear, or do we want it dark and foggy? I choose clear!