Wow there is a lot there. A lot to think about!! Hmm thinking about it - I would not want my T to touch me and suddenly know everything about me, but not because I don't want her to know. I don't hold anything back from her and she knows me better than anyone else on the planet my H being 2nd. I wouldn't want her to be able to know everything suddenly and with one touch, because a big part of my progress in therapy has been the gradual TELLING of these things, and I would not have experienced the healing I've had if I had not been able to go through the process of learning to trust and actually speak the things I've told her over time.

I wouldn't want to be able to know everything about her suddenly either. My first instinct was to say yes I would want to but upon reflection, I think no, I like it better the way it is.... sometimes the unequal balance of power thing bugs the he!! out of me, but then I realize that's the way it has to be. She shares tidbits of herself now and then and I appreciate her trusting me with them. But to know everything? No. then she couldn't be my t anymore because it wouldn't work if I suddenly had to worry about how something I said would affect her, etc.

this is a great post, thank you for making me think!