Thanks for that definition. I am doing trauma work w/ my T right now. We are trying to find where to start.

I was raped many years ago. That that is an issue to work threw she seems to think we need to let the inner child show the way and the path to why I stayed w/ this man who raped me. Why I chose another abusive man to marry. So we have gone back a little further in my childhood to a time when my sister was born and I was unwanted and sent off to school. I was born out of wedlock and my sister was not. My sister was wanted and I was not. I am now 30 +years later but at the time I was a burden. Who know if we need to go further back then that. We touch on the subject every other month or so. I guess I need to sit w/ what has been learned and felt.

My H complains that I act like a child. I like to have fun. I love to sing and dance w/ my kids. Make jokes and go to fun kiddy events w/ my kids. My H ascts like a stick in the mud while I have a blast w/ my kids. My T says you may very well be stuck in a time frame of a 10 -12 yr old when you are w/ your kids. You are an adult sometimes and a kid sometimes. Weird. I am not sure about all that inner child stuff. But I'm not the professional my T is. They can't just go around making these things up, inner children, or they'd lose there creditability quickly.