I am trying to figure out if I am asexual or not...I am a little confused on the meaning behind the word. I don't care for sex, I do not crave it in any capacity, but that does not mean I am not physically attracted to the opposite sex. There are many guys that I think are very handsome and/or sexy, but I don't want to have sex with them necessarily. I also want kids (adoption) and a family some day... this is all very confusing . Perhaps it has to do with my CSA history and I am not interested because of that, rather than just being asexual. Are you born asexual or can you "turn" asexual? I figure you would have to be born asexual, but I guess I don't really know.

Are there any asexuals out there who are married (perhaps to other asexuals)? I feel like an asexual person married to a sexual person would be difficult, that's why I wonder if two asexuals would have a better understanding of each other.

Asexual simply means lack of sexual attraction right? I don't see why you couldn't be married and just not have sex because neither of you want it. Or perhaps there is no point to marriage if you're not having sex. Am I making sense?

I am curious too, do any asexuals ever want kids?