Syra, that's what I think happens to a lot of people, and it's so unfortunate. It's much easier to judge the results of the work of other professionals we hire in life: did the MD diagnose and treat properly is more definite; home repair can be judged by clear inspection; even in education, where the goals can be fuzzier, assessment is possible to some extent.

But when it comes to therapy, we spend a lot of money, get involved emotionally, and often it seems to be in resolving a transference that lesser trained therapists can quickly lose their way, and then it all goes downhill. And we're left to pick up the pieces. I hope you don't feel badly about not seeing the red flags because we're really not in a position to much of the time.