anjelmarie,
I can relate to your situation. I'll share with you. After being out of school for 11 years, I decided to go back and start college. After four years, I had a bachelor's in science and chem and was married with a child on the way. The fall after I graduated, we moved so I could get a post graduate degree. All during this time, I was developing severe, daily migraines. My son was born and was the highlight of my life. My now ex-wife became verbally and emotionally abusive. We divorced during my senior year of post graduate work, and she took my son back home, several states away. That spring, I graduated with a doctorate degree. I had to finish one month of work after graduation as the migraines had become so severe that I lost of month of schooling.

Right out of school I landed a very good job in the state I went to school in. My ex had become so abusive to my parents when they went to see my son that I had to take out a restraining order on her in my parent's behalf. When I would visit my son, he was four at the time, he would tell me things like "mom says you don't pay us enough to get a house". That and a few other goodies. At any rate, after three years on the job, I had to quite because of pain, taking a part time job. Despite numerous tests, medications etc. the migraines got worse.

So, here I am, no wife, no son, eight years of education down the toilet, pain so bad that every moment I"m not working, (two to three half days a week), I spend in the dark trying to get rid of pain. My back has gone out and so I walk with a cane, again painfully. Neither problem will go away, or so I am told. tens of thousands of dollars left in student loans,