Thing is, a lot of people would see that as incredibly intrusive. I know I would. I get angry just by imagining anybody saying that to me; done to me it would not be an act of kindness, but an act of patronising and shaming and invalidating who I am, and a T who did not understand that is not somebody who could help me at all. But obviously, since people are so different (as seen in this thread!), this is where the T's training and abilities in knowing what different people need, and how different people will react, comes into play. For you, this was the right thing to do and I'm glad your T did it for you (but I'm also glad that she asked you before she did it!)

To return to the OT, I would imagine that bringing up what bothers you, button, and trying to understand why it bothers you - without making it something about the T but rather about your reactions - might be really helpful.