Thank you for your replies averyone! I have been so frustrated with this because I am somewhat of an outsider.. but my life is hugely affected by K's drug addiction.

I seem to be the only one who realizes tough love is needed here.. they are intent on showing him they love him by "helping" him as much as they can.

I end up feeling like I am being selfish because this seems to be always dominating out lives.. its all about K all the time. His older brother who does very well for himself and would make any parent proud is overlooked when he has accomplishments in his life.

My 16 year old son doesn't get the attention from his "step dad" ( as he refers to my bf) that he desires... because its all about K all the time.

I don't know what its going to take.. but it doesn't look like they are going to stop enabling him or his girlfriend.I think what scares me too is that K is bad to hang out with meth cookers too and that is so dangerous! I fear he wil one day endup dead.. either from an od or a meth lab accident..

or maybe he wil be hallucinating one day and kill someone or himself...once he did "see demons" trying to get into his house, and he had the shotgun to defend his family with. He hid his son behind the couch.How frightening to think what could have happened....

It is frightening now. and it is heartbreaking.. and it is frustrating.. and maddening all at the same time!

I just wish addicts could see how their habit hurts so mnay people..thanks again ya'll!