Thanks. This felt very nice to read this. Sometimes I feel really stupid for not paying attention. Truth is, I SAW the flags. SEveral of them. But I ignored them (or perhaps filed them on the back burner). It felt so good and I didn't want to give up all the good feelings. I now suspect there was counter-transference going on, big time. And she didn't have the training or foundation to even conceive of it as an issue - or to pay attention to the clues. That is something I totally missed. I now suspect she was so good to me (and she was from the humanistic area which tend to have much lower boundaries) not because it was good for me, but because it made her feel like she was special T. But I can't prove it. And I don't think it was malicious and intended to be manipulative, but it still wasn't good for me, even if I did love it.