The most wonderful experience I have had in therapy is when I brought up something that seemed to interfere wtih my therapy, while T was doing all that he had been trained to do. He listened, and then started to problem solve with me how to make it work better for me. No defensiveness. No labeling. And no assigning blame - to himself or me, which was good. This was about the 4th time we'd had some kind of issue to work out. And what I learned from the process was so much more important than resolving the acute issue. My trust in him is now immense, and I can really be me - even the parts of me that usually hide. Because he is like that, I find more of me making itself present, and that is incredibly wonderful for my therapy.