[quote=nothingtolivefor;2756712]Have you ever sensed in therapy that the careful wording of your therapist tends to insulate them from failure while exposing you to the detriment thereof?

My therapist told me once that I was being resistant.
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Yes. My therapist has told me that I'm resistant to another way of thinking about life. I am stuck in my negativity. I did not like the word resistant either but did not make the connections you clearly made here. Thank you - nothingtolivefor- for the post. Good to know that others have been told this too.

When T called me resistant I felt like he was saying, it is my choice to be this way. Like I could just flip it around if I wanted to. Like all my reasons for feeling hopeless were unfounded. However, on the other hand, he would also recognize and validate my unfortunate circumstances and be understanding of my situation. So, my reasons for feeling the way I do are real but I'm supposed to be open to accepting another line of thinking - which I'm not. Therefore, I"m resistant.