I'm totally with you. I think. Maybe a somewhat different perspective. I don't think it matters if you are resistant or cautious, although I'm totally wiht you not wanting your therapist to be the "decider." Resistance isn't something that an be reduced by pressure, without forcing or breaking something. Labeling you, especially with something you don't agree with, doesn't breed trust and openness and curiosity, or safety, although it may (in some people) breed compliance. But complaince isn't trust, and compliance for acceptance isn't therapeutic. I've had something similar, and my stance looked a lot like yours.