Feelings just are. They are always there even when they're being pushed down. For myself, I started quizzing myself about feelings when I didn't "like" them. I'd ask myself, "what would you rather be feeling?" Often that is all it takes to show me that I'm "fine" because what I feel matches what I'm thinking about or going through. If you're thinking about how much you miss your grandmother, then yes, you should be feeling like crying! How else would you rather feel in such a situation? Would you laugh? Of course not!

I think feelings, like moods, tides, weather, energy, etc. go in waves/cycles. One can't always be up all the time or cry all the time, etc. I think when we're in therapy and working with such intense emotions and memories that we have to get "burnt out" for a bit in order to rest. So, we feel "blank" or not much of anything. We can't work full throttle all the time. Observe yourself over a month or more and how your energy and feelings ebb and flow. It's one of the best things my therapist ever taught me, now feelings come and go and if we wait and watch we'll notice (so if there's a difficult or painful one, we just have to wait and our feeling will change to a more comfortable state).