I hate to say this 1tash1 but this other woman isn't helping matters. It makes it hard for you to see things clearly.

But you just might be right. After all is said and done, perhaps things are too broken to be mended. Only you and your wife know that for sure. Maybe all the counseling in the world couldn't help you two. It's a shame after all these years to throw it all away, especially when you have another woman complicating issues. I'm not blaming her - I'm sure she's a nice person. And I'm not really blaming you either. I think you two just somehow got thrown together when you were needy. But to continue it now would be a very bad idea as it just wouldn't work out. You're too needy at this point, and she's been your shoulder to "cry" on. Any relationship that you try to build out of that is going to turn out to be a disaster.

You have to make the final decision. I hope you know what is right for you, your wife and your children. The kids are always the ones who get hurt if you do decide to separate. Think things thru very carefully because once you decide, there may not be any going back. God bless and I wish you all the best, 1tash1. I know you've been unhappy, but there's still a chance. Hugs,, Lee