Wow - aren't you jumping to conclusions? I would say he doesn't know how to share his feelings with RtS and still feel safe and accepted. It took me a long time to feel safe with T because of my family of origin. It may be hurtful but that might not be his intent. His intent may be giving her information. It's a hit and run way of doing it and it may hury but that is clumsiness and shame, not necessarily intent. Well that's how I excuse my own stupidity anyway.