RTS...IMHO, that is disloyal. It is not an act of love. I try my damnedest not to b***h about my H, even tho I am guilty sometimes.

My H's BFF complains about his wife. One day he was complaining about her to me and I said, "So when you and H get together, y'all just complain about us, huh?" He said, "Well I complain about W, but H has never said a bad word about you. Ever."

Which is why I wonder about my T because she has complained about her H at length to me a couple of times. I don't respect that.