I think this may be true in individual therapy to some extent, but I am always bounded by the restriction that I what I say be true and fair. I cannot tell you how many times I have complained about H, but then said, 'to be fair to H, I did X . . ."

I also think group therapy is a slightly different thing. If you are walking into group and presenting a seriously, seriously slanted view of your spouse, in an effort to have the group be on your side or to get more support and none of these people would ever meet you spouse and s/he will never know and you just really need support, that is one thing. Going home and telling your spouse about the hurtful things that are said about your spouse is a totally different thing.