That is absolutely not the reason my husband and I had our children. We had our children because family is just who we are, and we have a really close family here.

I think there is a difference between "falling in love" and developing a maturity in a love relationship. Falling in love feels wonderful, but it is no real indicator of the lasting ability of a relationship long-term. Yes, mature love isn't as "emotional" or "head-over-heals". It loses that obsessiveness that is so all-encompassing in the beginning. But mature love, for my husband and I anyway (and we're in our 25th year of marriage), is comforting, is a security, and is truly supportive through the good and the bad.

Falling in love feels great short-term, but many people fall right out of love as soon as things get tough. Mature love, again speaking from my personal experience, withstands and even strengthens in those hard times.

If your relationship feels stale, it is up to you and your spouse to work at it. Mature love IS work, but it doesn't have to be stale and boring unless you decide to let it stay that way. Falling in love is pretty effortless honestly. Is that why you long for it?