hi Perna, thanks ffor responding.
and yeh, you arre rite bout the girls shood do ther rooms regardless of whethr my eldest dos or not. reely, at 22.....and like i sed bfor, i'v not sed anythng til now caus of the PTSD but now this is about a yearrs wrrth of garbage, i reely need him to do it.

yeh, he sees my hubby do chores. unfortunatly, alot of em. i thnk al the kids expect us to 'do it all' and thats OUR faultt. whn i was going thru the treetmnts for brain tumrs, my hubby was wrrkng and holdin down tthe fort too. my 2 helpd out a bit. but not wwhat youd tthink.

wth a 22yr old (and he is the son i keep talkng about) and 4othr kids ranging in ages from 19 to 15, thay are expecctd todo ther own launddry and dishs and keep ther rooms trash-free. thats it. no 'famly' chores. i dont reely agree wth it. but nobody mows the lawn or cleens the bathroom or piks up tthe livng room wthout gettng paid. and thats my hubby. i thnk its rediculus. maybbe i'm wrrong. lol its not evn tthe point anywway. i wwas jus lettin ya no, htat all the kids DO see my hubby and i do stuff arownd our home. on wkends, my hubby turrns intto a 'short-ordr' cook, evrybody wants somthng diffrent, and thay get it. agen, rediculus. just make pancakes! he dos, somtimes. othr times, its 'i want scrambld eggs' i want an omelet' i want sosage' i want...... lololol thay are NOT neglectd.

GOOD LUCK on yor blood tests, sendin my biggest hopes, TRUTH! keep me postd! pm me if ya wwant.

sara