I think that your husband CAN understand to a degree. For instance ... My husband doesn't always "get me" and doesn't understand how my mood can flip on a dime.

What him and I have sat down and discussed and agreed to that if I really am feeling a mess all I need to do is tell him point blank " I am feeling ______" and I need you to help reassure me that whatever is going on I will have support.

That's a difficult situation and there is no easy answer. My wife didn't understand my ADHD when we first got together and my funny spontaneity soon turned into a constant source of annoyance and frustration for her. To help her understand, I stuck an audio book on her iPod about adults with ADHD and she thought the book was written just to describe me! Her better understanding my disorder doesn't make me less annoying, but it does give us a common ground to address my behaviors without feeling as if I'm being attacked.

I understand the bipolar is far more complex of a disorder than my ADHD and my heart truly goes out to you and your struggles. I still think that educating your husband of the disorder is the first step, be it come from a book, a close friend, or even a mental health professional. My personal experience has shown me that this education needs to come from someone or something other than yourself because the person may think you are just dishing out excuses. Also family therapy would be a good option if your children are old enough to be affected by this misunderstanding.

OK, I wrote too long! Overall, no matter how painful and difficult this is, please remember that there always are solutions and there is no easy street to change. I wish you the best!

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