I am sorry about your loss. I am sorry you had this as your next experience. It sounds as though he is very angry not just hurt. Hopefully he can work through that. And I hope you can come to peace with this, it's hard to know what to do with a lashing like that. Just remember it isn't yours. You don't have to keep the words with you. What I think is that usually when someone reacts with this level of hostility or anger, it really isn't all about the other person (you).. some of that anger could have been around for a long time and have nothing to do with you, but when it comes out, it comes out all at once.. which ever direction it is pointing.