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Old Dec 11, 2012, 04:34 PM
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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006 View Post
thinking more on this, I honestly think he should defriend her and if he has gmail, just block her emails from her. If he really cares nothing for this woman it should be no big deal, I dont think he's a bad guy at all but it seems to me if he loves you, and is afraid to block her, that he probably is a non confrontational person and doesn't make many waves, and that might be his reasoning. Still though, his priority should be on your feelings of security and happiness. I'm just sayin...
He is extremely non-confrontational. In fact, it may be one of the reasons he's having business issues right now. He's had a pattern of letting other people influence him, even to his own detriment. From his parents, to his business partner to his ex-wife....They've all had their own agendas and have not always thought about his needs....but, to be honest, he's not taken care of his own needs himself. We're totally working on this. I want him to find his OWN way of standing up for himself without imposing my methods on him. I'm a fairly aggressive person and will stand up for myself in almost any situation....I also love a good fight on behalf of an underdog...it's just my nature (as it is his) that stems from childhood stuff I'm sure. He offered to de-friend her and to ask her to knock it off but I said "no" because some women see these things as a victory...if she's interested in him still and senses that she's causing problems, I'm not sure if she'd take it to the next level or not (whatever that means). She may be a perfectly nice person who just has a problem with boundaries and nothing more than that...Given that other people have had too much influence on him and this is something that he's working on, I really am hesitant to ask him to de-friend or block...these really do have to be his choices.