You wrote: I still don't know why I got hardly any replies.

I feel bad.

Guess no one can relate.

I feel like deleting this post. But I can't and even if I could, I wouldn't. New behavior; I can't keep deleting posts just cause I think ppl don't like them or can't relate.

Nope, don't delete the post. It takes me awhile sometimes, but I'm around, reading in our forum when I can, empathizing all the while.

I, too, get angry when others take up a huge amount of group time. What did your leader say when you talked with her? Mine would say things like, "sometimes you talk a long time, too" and I say "but sometimes I don't talk at all!" "People have different needs at different times, don't they?"--and it wouldn't really be a question she was asking me at all, of course. I hope you got a good reply when you talked with her. DBT is rough. The group experience was really important for me. I have trouble when things don't go the way I want in terms of pace, tone, length of talk time, and so on. But that turns out to be part of what I need: forced acceptance of others' (irritating) behavior.