I don't think the age thing itself is so much of an issue...I'd tell you whatever makes you happy is what's good for you. To each their own...I know I'm a little more strict with my own age preference, but that doesn't make it right or wrong per se.

I am, though, concerned about what your parents would think...from their perspective, you're seeing someone as old as they are. That's going to be awkward, to say the very least. I'm not sure how well that aspect is going to work out. Additionally, I think you owe it to your current boyfriend to end things with him before seeking anyone else. It'll save you both a lot of unnecessary complications and heartache in the end.

Additionally, biggest thing I'm curious of...lol if he doesn't know you're into BDSM, how can he potentially act on that part of your life? I will confess, I'm not overly BDSM savvy, so I might be understating the problem here, but could you perhaps talk to him and let him know this is something important to you? He might be more receptive than you give him credit for. It just may require some communication and education for him.

Take care, and all my best.

Harley