Hi there, I have been working in an office for many years, and I think bosses will, at one point, offend you regardless if it was intentional or not. I'm not saying it's wrong to feel bad about your boss making an impression, but you did mention she seems "genuine" and "never did anything to offend you". Was she being sarcastic? Maybe she was trying to be funny and it somehow came out the wrong way. It would be more offensive if it was in front of a group of people which it wasn't I'm assuming. I don't think there was anything wrong with her asking you to speak more in meetings, meetings are to get feedback, resolve issues, determine progress, etc... you said that they wouldn't want hear what you have to say, but maybe they do, nice or not, negative feedback is also needed so errors can be fixed.