Bless your heart. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. But I do have to wonder why you've stayed around this long for this kind of treatment. It's darn close to abuse, but not quite.

I mean,, gosh -- he doesn't acknowledge your birthday, valentines' day, Christmas -- anything! That's gotta hurt! And no one is getting any younger!

I know you don't want to give an ultimatum, but you're going to HAVE to move on. I certainly would NOT waste another 10 years on this guy. I wouldn't waste another MINUTE on him. He's not going to change -- and to bed down with him would certainly be a no-no. That would just make him call you over and over for a quickie.

Tell this guy you've had enough -- that you've wasted enough of your life already, and you need someone who will commit - and he's just not ready. Even if he proposed today, you'll know it's just because you told him it was over. If he does propose, I'd tell him NO. He hasn't introduced you to his family or anyone in 10 years -- that would tell me that he doesn't think enough of me to "allow" me to meet them! You need someone who treats you with RESPECT and he DOESN'T! YOu need someone who truly LOVES you and shows you that he does. HE DOESN'T. You need someone who really TRUSTS you, and he DOESN'T. Sorry, but I don't think this guy is for you. You deserve better than this. God bless you and please take care. Hugs, Lee