Wow Lee, thank you. Your honesty is appreciated but I didn't see that coming ! I will certainly think about what you've said. I know there's a lot to take in. I feel torn.
He's already talking about how much he's going to make up for lost time, in the bedroom and I'm almost certain I'll give in. I need to feel him close again, would that be so wrong. He has never just used me for sex, but when I see him, I always stay the night.

Oh dear, I just want this time to be different.

But you're right about a lot, me and his family not meeting. The matter of the birthday cards is an odd one, I've never really seen him on those occasions, so he doesn't bother.

Why, oh why, could I have a straight forward relationship ?

Thanks again. No one seems to want to advise me !

I can't wait for him forever, although you say he doesn't love me, I think he does in his compartmental way.
Does his waiting round for a year count towards anything ?

All advice welcome