I am afraid I tend to lean the same way as Leed.

I know if this guy loved you, a healthy love, then you'd be part of his life properly. Including his family. He'd be proud to show you off, and not have his family not even know if you're still on the scene.

Ten years is a long time to be with someone and not make steps forward. Even if he isn't the marrying kind, why are you not living together? Would that have been the middle ground for you both? Did you discuss it?

Yes, he waited a year for you which is lovely. But I do think you need a straight answer from him about what he wants for the future and at least then you can decide what to do with your life. Can you sit down and talk soon, and be honest?

Big hugs..