Tough situation. You're going to need to read through that message and see what your daughter said. You need to know what you are dealing with here. You will probably want to put restrictions on her computer use, like no using the computer unsupervised. It sounds like you have the computer where you can see it, since you did see the open message screen. Personally, I would set the computer to require logging on and not give her the password. Although, kids are pretty computer savy and might be able to get around the password. You might need to disable internet when you're not home. And if she is able to get to the library, I don't know... How big is your town and how well do you know the librarians?

Restricting access is only good so far. Once you read that message and know what she was after, you can have a talk with your daughter and see if she understands the dangers of what she was doing. It's hard to get through to kids because they don't think bad things are going to happen to them, even if they know those things happen to other kids. The part of the brain that makes rational decisions doesn't actually finish developing until around the mid-20s. Let your daughter know that you love her no matter what, and that your job is to keep her safe. Kids do want to be safe even at the same time that they want freedom. Spend time with her and have some fun and keep your relationship as open as you can. Be someone she can communicate with and not be afraid of getting in trouble.

I hope this helps. You are the expert on your daughter, so you will know best what to do. What would have worked with you when you were her age, if you had been in her position?

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