Sometimes I feel like I am in a lifeboat, at sea with no sight of land, and it is a desolate expanse between me and anybody else. I don't know if this is anything like the disconnect you feel, but I also experience disconnection as very painful, probably when I feel the most hopeless.

What is sometimes true for me is that the disconnect is with myself. I'm not in a mindful place, I'm pushing parts of myself apart rather than together, and without being able to connect to myself, I can't connect to anyone else.