I'm new here, this is actually my second post. Your post really got me because I think my boyfriend (of 12 years) has serious passive-agressive issues. I admire your courage in taking steps to heal yourself and leave a toxic relationship, but it sounds like the best thing for your children. I mean, the reason this forum exists is because of dysfunctional families! It sounds like other people besides yourself have become frustrated with his behavior as well. Maybe you can see what some of these folks have to say and possibly set up some sort of intervention scenario. I have to say that I've worked with mentally ill people before and NONE of them want to take their medications at first-even if they are living under an overpass. However, I have seen severely mentally ill folks obtain housing and - after a few tries-really turn around 180. Wishing you and your little ones the best of luck whatever happens with the husband!